Why do breakups bother so much? Even when the relationship is no longer good! A breakup is depressing because it describes the loss, not just of the bond, but also of shared dreams and commitments. Romantic relationships begin on a high note of enthusiasm and hope for the future. When these relationships fail, we undergo profound frustration, stress, and grief. That pain can be understood only by those has gone through!
One thing can’t be ignored that an ex is a very important part of one’s life. A person learns a lot of good and at times bad things during a relationship so having keepsakes is a very complicated issue. But the most obvious question during breakup arise, ‘Will I ever be able to get the same bond with Ex?’ We’re here to talk on the same.
If you do not think of a person as highly now as you used to, the memories associated with that person can also be responsible, says a study.
“Memories of the love we felt in childhood towards our parents are among the most precious aspects of autobiographical memory we could think of,” stated study lead author Lawrence Patihis from the University of Southern Mississippi in the US. “Yet our findings hint that these memories of love are flexible, which is not something we would want to be true,” Patihis said.
For the study, there were two experiments involving over 300 members in each. The research showed if people switch their evaluation of someone, it may also change the memory of their sentiments towards them. “This is true of memory of love towards mothers in childhood,” Patihis described.
“The significance of this research lies in the new knowledge that our current evaluations of people can be lowered if we choose to focus on the negative, and this can have a side effect,” Patihis said
As our memories fade, we rely on our current assessment of the people to remember how we felt about them in the past, this continues to some of the most central figures in our lives, like our parents.
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